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honor & remember

honoring the life of a loved one

illuminating grief

"A candle’s dancing light is a symbol of a living spirit. The flame burns to strengthen memories and the light of their life continues to shine."

Despite loss being a part of life, saying goodbye to a loved one is often complicated and messy. Culturally many of us are taught unhealthy ways to deal with loss including avoiding our feelings or isolating from others. In order to honor and remember our loved one, it is important to find healthy ways to do this.

There are many healthy ways to express grief and remember our loved ones. Here are some ideas to help you get started:

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Acknowledge your loss and the various emotions that come with it​

While grieving, it’s normal to experience a wide range of emotions including sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, fear and confusion. Part of the healing process is feeling our emotions rather than avoiding them.

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Find ways to honor and remember your loved one.

Turn your feelings into actions. Examples include lighting your new Memory Flame candle, creating a photo album of your loved one, creating a memory garden, painting or writing, writing a letter to the one you lost, or finding a safe person to share memories with.

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Seek out social support

Knowing we are not alone while grieving can help decrease feelings of loneliness. Spending time with loved ones can help us adjust to a new routine and life without the one we lost.

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Practice self kindness

Extend the same compassion and understanding to yourself as you would a friend who is grieving. Practice patience with yourself and allow yourself to grieve in your own way. Try to avoid comparing your grief to others. 

While being able to remember our loved one is a process, sometimes healing is difficult to find on our own.

It is our hope your new Memory Flame candle brings you comfort as you honor and remember your loved one.

If you are feeling stuck in your grief, are unable to complete daily activities, or are experiencing thoughts of suicide or self harm seeking out a mental health professional can help.

Contrary to popular belief, the passage of time does not guarantee healing. While time can help, putting forth effort and energy into the grieving process is also necessary to move forward.

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These resources are brought to you by Brea Grueneich, MS, NCC, LPC, QMHP with Agape Counseling Center in Brandon, South Dakota.
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Grief resources brought to you by Brea Grueneich, MS, NCC, LPC, QMHP with Agape Counseling Center in Brandon, South Dakota.